May 10^th, 2009

Mary,

You must be finishing up your last few classes at Pitt. I'm sure it felt like your first year went by much too fast.

Now that you have moved away from home and started the next chapter of your life, I feel like there is more I can tell you. I wish I could say that your move was only one of many reasons that this letter was delayed for so long, but I must be honest with you and myself. Your mother is a powerful figure; you know this. I was not strong enough to confront her, even when you were clearly in need. I left you to cope with her instability alone. You living with her prevented me from acting. For that I am deeply sorry.

Why didn't I act when there was still a chance of reconciliation? I didn't recognize the problems and miscommunication, and I let fear control how I reacted. I was silent when I should have allowed room for discussion. It is important to face problems head on. Once again, I am sorry.

Over the past year I've heard you call out for help, and I was silent. I want you to know that as many flaws as I may have, giving up on you will not be added to that list. You know how to contact me if and when you can forgive me for the past.

~Dad